Story by Fred Pry.
With so much online today and more and more becoming accessible through our phones, kids and cell phone addiction has become a common problem. Recent studies have cited digital addiction among youth as a global concern, with 60% between the ages of 5-16 exhibiting behaviors indicative of technology dependency. When not intentionally addressed, excessive digital engagement can negatively affect our children in profound ways without them even realizing it.
Here are five bad habits cell phone addiction can cause in kids, and five biblical solutions to help them unplug.
1. Instant gratification
Many kids today have instant access to their favorite food and drinks, instant access to the people they want to talk to, or instant access to entertainment through technology. Without realizing it, they’re being shaped to believe what they want should come quickly. When every development in today’s world is to make something faster and easier to obtain, kids are becoming impatient, anxious and easily angered when their expectations are not met right away.
The biblical solution: Cultivating patience and delayed gratification
In a world where instant gratification is expected and attention spans are being subliminally shortened, we need to help our kids value patience and the reward of hard work over time. God has things to teach us in life while we wait for the answers or situations we want, and we’ll miss out on those important milestones of faith and growth if we’re too busy being annoyed by what we don’t instantly have, so that we miss what God wants to do in us instead.
2. Lack of genuine connection
With so much of the world just a tap away, it’s so easy to text or call a friend whenever a child is feeling bored, lonely or needing advice. So easy, in fact, they can neglect talking to God first. When kids and cell phone addiction mix, a lack of genuine connection with others is often a result. As human beings, we’re designed by God to desire connection with Him and others. But that connection wanes when cell phones are designed to keep us glued to their screens and not out interacting and enjoying the real world with others.
When a kid feels disconnected from their true heart’s needs, they’ll seek that connection from outside sources like social media. The problem, however, is that “quick fixes” like this don’t actually fulfill our souls’ longing for deep connection with God and each other. It trains kids to treat their friends like commodities, share more than they should online, grow more dependent on others rather than dependent on God, or become anxious and frustrated while chasing a constant dopamine high through tech.
The biblical solution: Prioritizing relationship with God and others
God wants to be our closest friend. He is the “friend who sticks closer than a brother” and the only One who is able to truly fill our souls. Encourage your kids to become closer friends with God by guiding them to talk to Him first when feeling an emotion before they post something online, to listen to what the Holy Spirit says when reading God’s Word, or by helping them unplug and go on prayer walks in God’s creation.
3. Entitlement
Perhaps the kid in your life already enjoys many benefits and lives a comfortable life, so they expect things to always go as they want. Or maybe they see how others live on social media and want that for themselves, too. Regardless of the source, entitlement can cause kids to complain, confuse “wants” with “needs,” not show gratitude, or fall apart if things don’t always meet their expectations.
The biblical solution: Cultivating gratitude and contentment
While it’s good for us to have our basic needs met and to experience happiness in life, entitlement can grow quickly with kids, and cell phone addiction can fuel that when all they’re seeing is a distorted picture of how much better off others seem to have it. Help kids recognize God’s goodness and point them away from entitlement by encouraging them to unplug, enjoy what they have, rather than fixating on what they don’t, and accept the difficulties of life as opportunities to learn, grow and care for others.
4. Wasting time
Right now, so much is curated to either revolve around our kids’ schedule and happen exactly when they want it to, or to help them forget the world around them for a while in mindless distractions. Kids may think that time is theirs to spend as they wish. The result is often a habit of laziness, poor focus, or neglecting personal responsibilities.
The biblical solution: Stewarding time as a gift from God
This lie can be damaging because you never know how much time on this earth you have, and every second — everything we do — matters. But you can point to ways they can spend their time that have an eternal impact. Help kids realize that they can have a positive impact on others every single day, even by doing their chores or homework, simply by doing it with a positive attitude and choosing to focus on serving God. When honoring Jesus is our focus, every action, every thought, and every second can become a form of worship — creating a happy heart in you, God, and others around you!
5. Self-centeredness
“Self-care” is a popular term in our culture, and while taking care of your emotional, physical, mental and spiritual needs is an important lesson worthy of teaching your kids, it can turn into an ugly weed if the purpose behind it becomes totally self-centered. “Self-care” taken too far can often look like isolation, a selfish or rude attitude, an unhealthy “me first” mindset, or an unwillingness to care for others.
The biblical solution: Living for others as Christ did
As a beautiful creation of God, you should always be teaching kids about emotions and how to take care of themselves, but never at the cost of neglecting to care for others. Healthy self-care is seeing that your own cup is full, so you have even more to pour out for others. Ultimately, teaching kids about emotions, helping them to unplug and enjoy being present, is the first step towards battling unhappy kids and cell phone addiction, allowing them to see God’s truth in their lives.
About the Author: Fred Pry is the Vice President of Administration at Child Evangelism Fellowship® (CEF), the most impactful child evangelism ministry in the world, reaching over 27.4 million children with its face-to-face ministry in 2024.
